Self Talk

by Christie Ryan Fitness

Are you looking for a way to lose weight effectively? Start with your brain.

Our brain is such a powerful force. Well, duh, it’s what makes us function. But I’m learning more and more about how old patterns and beliefs can continue to direct the course of our actions because our brains have developed a pathway, a ridge, so to speak, that recreates beliefs such as “I’m not good enough” or “I’m fat” or “I’m not smart enough to do that.” It’s such an insidious process we often don’t even realize that those beliefs are keeping us from our success.



If you have a belief that you are overweight and there is an emotion of disgust associated with that, or feelings of failure, it will be difficult to make changes because the “ridge” in your brain has been created from the message you’ve believed over and over that you can’t do this……that you will fail every time.   This is very simplistic but it gives you an idea of what might be getting in your way. I had an opportunity to listen to and work with Dr. Mcayla Sarno (link from a SMART SUCCESS seminar I attended by Chalene and Bret Johnson. Dr. Macayla has studied neuroscience and the physiology that is created when we hold on to negative beliefs.   Her research shows that these patterns of belief keep us “stuck” and unable to succeed in weight loss, relationships or business.   This morning on NPR there was a story about how our mental image of our self affects our behavior. Our brains are POWERFUL!

Check it out!

So what’s a person to do? You can start with being aware of powerful self talk and start talking to yourself in a positive and gentle sense. Instead of directing hate and avoidance to your body, direct love and acceptance. Really, start loving those thighs even with the cellulite, broken veins and weird shape. Accept your belly with its puffy little rolls. It’s only when you accept that part of yourself, can you take the step forward to treating yourself with respect and kindness.

You alone are responsible for the messages you give yourself. Remember to treat yourself with consideration and kindness at all times. Your progress will improve if you reinforce your positive changes with affirming messages:


“I can do this.”

“I don’t have to be perfect; I am making progress.”

“I like myself unconditionally.”

“I am a good person.”

“This weight will come off.”

“My muscles are stronger and my metabolism is increasing.”

“I have more energy.”

“My clothes are fitting better/looser.”

“I like my daily exercise time.”

“I like eating healthy foods.”

“What I choose to eat does not make me a bad person.”

“I will make gradual changes in what I do.”

“I deserve to feel good.”


This is a great resource!


Review your day and find one thing you did better. You’re making progress! Affirm yourself and your efforts every morning and evening as you repeat one of the above affirmations or select one of your own. Do this regularly as you speak out loud while standing in front of a mirror. The article on NPR even found that by calling ourselves by our name, rather than using I, seemed to be more effective. (You may feel silly but these messages will be more real if you look at yourself as you say them.) You are a very special individual and you deserve to be healthy.


Tell yourself that you CAN succeed in weight loss, see yourself as a FIT and HEALTHY person, making healthy choices daily. See yourself with those 40 pounds gone! See yourself doing the things you want to do but are restricted by because of your size or health. Once you conquer the beliefs you have towards your body and your ability to stick with a healthy lifestyle, you will be able to lose weight effectively.


If you’ve started making the changes in nutrition, you’ve started an exercise program but you quit every time, it may have nothing to do with how disciplined you are. It may be your brain insisting that you cannot lose weight, reminding you that you are a failure.   Don’t surrender to those old beliefs. They are OLD beliefs and don’t need to control you any longer.


If you’re ready to make a change and to take the step towards wellness, call me and I can help you stay the course.

(785) 827-3131

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Christie Ryan Fitness